Dreams are an Important Part of Living and Re-Entering Life

Life lesson: Listen to your dreams. They are usually sharing a message.

I woke up this morning at my usual time between 4 and 5 AM, but decided to stay in bed. It was cold outside and felt great in the cocoon of my warm and cozy bed.

I was so happy. The project I had been working on was progressing nicely. Someone was going to help me and I was certain my idea would become a reality. AlI was positive.

Then I woke up.

What a downer to go from super happiness to the pits in the space of a waking moment.

Dreams are an important part of living and re-entering life. They sort things out while we are asleep. They solve problems. While they often don’t make sense, they are representative of what has been going on while you are awake. Sometimes they simply reflect what was occurring just prior to sleep and sort of settle things down. They do often assist us during the time we are awake.

I used to have nightmares and the dog would wake me up. I think those were the product of a stressful job because I rarely have nightmares now.

The other night, however, I had a doozy. I was crammed in a closed room with all kinds of people. I don't do well with a lot of people around me. For some reason my dog didn’t wake me, and I woke up in a sweat on my own.

It started my day off in a negative way, just as much as the happy dream that wasn’t a reality.

That started a pity party. The whole enchilada. Why did my spouse have to die? Why did I have to live? Why? Why? Why?

It seems the last few weeks have been a step back regarding my attempt to re-enter life and I feel I should be on a more positive path by now.

I believe I have to consider the following, if I really wish to re-enter life successfully.

Accept regression, as it will happen from time to time.

Experience the pain of my loss.

Find a distraction from the grieving process.

Keep in mind it will get better as time passes.

Try to let life flow naturally. Life always has a way of turning itself around.

Put more focus on the positives in my journey.

Conversely, there are also mindsets on the opposite end of the spectrum, which should be avoided.

Don’t dwell on the negative aspects of my journey.

Don’t blame others for how I feel or the mistakes I have made.

Look out for self-defeating behaviors.

By all means, absolutely avoid the desire to cocoon all day.

I hope you are progressing positively through your grief.

Let me know how you are doing. I care.

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